Wednesday, May 27, 2009
worry, worry, my boss worries himself to death about paradigms that will never change. Than he gets very upset about it. I know I will get angry about something, but; yet I put myself right back in the same type of situation. I guess to change we have to first recognize the foundation of our problem and why we keep doing the same damn thing over and over again. A quote attributed to Einstein says "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is a definition of insanity." I guess we are all bit crazy especially when it comes to change. I think in my bosses case it has something to do with personal validation, he feels like no one is listening to him. I do not think they are and usually because he irate when he is telling his great ideas( I can relate, guilty of the same offense sometimes). I wonder if his delivery was calmer if it would make any difference? I do not think so in his case, in mine it almost always does. I was not raised to say " this is very frustrating for me when you do..." This I have had to change in my marriage, my wifes family clams up, if I get irate. They will automatically defend whom ever or what ever I go off about. If I stop and calmly say how it makes me feel they respond very openly. It is difficult for me I feel weak and goofy when I state my feelings that way, but; it works. I think there is a time and a place to raise your voice, it is just a matter of judging when that is appropriate. I know my boss struggles with this as well, hopefully he figures it out, and does not make problems for himself. Because our couch is not that comfortable.
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